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On the church letting people down:

It isn't always the church. I know parents who won't take a firm stand, who like the words "some people believe..." rather than simply "the Bible says... ." They make God soft and Scripture flexible. Then they wonder why their children question or wander away from the church or doubt everything. They blame the church for not meeting the needs of the young people.

Might it be because the parents haven't given their children anything solid? They are brought up on soft belief and it won't hold up under pressure.