The Third Option

Valentine's Day has come and gone again. As a single woman, the only thing about it that made me sad is that I couldn't find discounted chocolate or cinnamon hearts today (although I only looked in one place; I'll try other places tomorrow). Beyond that, it wasn't a big deal this year.

It did get me thinking, though. There are enough people who think that as a single person, I'm just waiting for the right guy to come along. I'm not. I'm also not out looking for a guy (the other perceived response to singleness). Either one makes it sound like my life is on hold in some way until I meet someone and get married. It's not.

I'm going with the third option: live life now. My life is already full and I am already contented and I already know joy. God has given me a wonderful life full of family and friends and work and studies and service. There's nothing to wait for.

I'm not decrying marriage. Marriage is a wonderful thing. If you're single and seeking marriage, that's great! Find someone, get married, raise a family, life life together. But don't wait until you're married to start living.

Life is too short and too wonderful to waste time on waiting. Live!

For Valentine's Day

Normally I don't celebrate Valentine's day in any way, shape, or form. This is entirely because I am single and have been for a very long time. (For the record: if I'm ever in a relationship on Valentine's Day, someone please tell him that I know it's a made up holiday, we should be celebrating our love all the time, and all the reasons that we can ignore Valentine's Day. He should bring me flowers anyway. And chocolate would be nice).

Today, though, I bring you this.  Enjoy.